You’ve read all the best advice.
Even paid quite a lot for some of it.
You’ve tried pills and potions, natural remedies and chemical cocktails.
Maybe you’ve seen a psychiatrist, reflexologist, and gemstone healer.
You’ve tried dry brushing and charcoal detoxes and meditation.
You’re not sick because you’re not trying.
But you’re not well, even though you’re really trying.
But honestly, nothing freaking works.
What the heck?
If you’ve spent a shed ton on expensive elixirs and miracle therapies, why are you still struggling with the same old demons? Why all the brain fog? Why the hideous acne and hair loss and dry skin? Why don’t you feel beautiful, even with a drawer full of designer lipstick? Why the pain and fatigue and confusion and stupid stupid pointlessness of it all?
All you can think is:
I don’t want to be sick anymore.
I don’t want to be sick anymore.
I don’t want to be sick anymore!
Ah ha. There it is. The crux. The answer. The cruelty.
Wait, what? Did you miss it?
Let me explain.
The Absolute Key To Getting Better
Let me explain something that took me 28 years to stop ignoring. Listen closely because this will change your life in every single way forever and ev.
In order to heal, in order for your efforts to fulfill your desires (whether it’s to become more sociable, reduce sun spots and wrinkles, or improve adrenal function) you have to get your brain on board. Have to. Must. No other options.
That is the key. Right there. Get your brain (and, moreover, your subconscious mind, which is 97% of your thoughts, emotions, and reactions) to do the hard work for you.
You could throw a million dollars, the best supplements, and the most brilliant specialists at your problems…and it will all be for nothing until you get that mindset sorted.
Once you have the gray matter on your side, the landscape of life becomes something beyond what you ever thought possible.
How? Read on.
The Two-Part Process to Getting Better
It’s natural for us to talk about what we want and don’t want. From infancy, we are trained to think in those terms. I want strawberry ice cream. I don’t want hair on my upper lip. I want to be a millionaire. I don’t want to be sick anymore.
However, this social norm presents a healing double edged conundrum that’s so sharp, it’ll skewer your liver and scramble your brains in a second if you’re not careful. Stay with me now, this is massive.
In order to find freedom from the suffering of your mind and body, you’ve got to get a hold of this two-part key to getting better.
You don’t want to be sick anymore. That’s a given.
1. You have to frame your health and healing goals in the positive tense.
2. You have to get your subconscious mind on board.
Let me explain each in detail.
1. Shifting the Negative Focus
Thinking in terms of what we want and don’t want becomes counter-productive when we get stuck stating what we want by saying what we don’t want.
For example, we’ve all thought, I don’t want to be sick anymore! Which is a perfectly reasonable sentiment. But what we really mean is, I want to be healthy, strong, vital and well.
See the difference?
Making the switch will take some time and effort; I know you don’t want it to rain on your wedding day and you certainly don’t want your tum to be bloated when you go out to dinner in a nice dress.
But every time you catch yourself framing what you want in the negative tense, simply redirect. Re-frame the sentiment with a positive spin. You want warm sunny weather for your big day, and you want to feel sexy and amazing in that figure-hugging dress.
Similarly, when you think, I don’t want to be sick anymore, dial into the vision you have of yourself being well, and focus on whatever encouraging, positive outcome you truly desire. Set yourself a definitive goal that you can focus on and visualise. It may be that you want to visit Venice and wear a yellow halter top. Or take a sewing class at the local college. Maybe you’ve always wanted to Salsa dance. Whatever it is: focus on going insane with happiness.
2. Getting Better With the Subconscious Mind
The subconscious mind is a tricky biscuit. It is non-negotiable that we get a grip on it; otherwise, we will constantly be battling against it’s 97% influence over our lives.
However, there are a few tricks to training the subconscious mind to do what we want, and one of them is learning to speak its language.
What I said about re-framing the negative focus from I don’t want to I want is the first part. Now, we’re going to refine that sentiment.
You see, the thing is, the subconscious mind is extremely literal. So, when you say, I want, then your subconscious accepts that you are living in a state of wanting. As in, you are simply longing for something, and will continue to yearn for that thing as long as you say, I want. Your subconscious will simply go, “Righty-ho, we are going to want the dickens out of this thing!” As such, you will continue to want and want and want, never to be fulfilled.
The way to get around this is to re-frame yet again, by taking the positive focus you have cultivated from I want to the present tense of I am/I have/it is. So, instead of saying, I want to heal, say, I am healing more and more every day. In this way, your subconscious goes, “Oh, OK. So we are healing more everyday. Great. Let’s heal.”
Accordingly, your thoughts, emotions, and reactions begin to reflect this subconscious idea that every day you are healing more and more. As we apply this frame work to other areas of our life (particularly our healing journey) it all becomes far less effort and a much more intuitive, natural flow. It becomes habit. Imagine if being amazingly well and happy was simply a habit. As in, easy. Something you do without effort or even thinking.
That’s like ultimate success on auto-pilot (delivered in a vintage basket with peach jam).
From today, you can now start saying: my yoga practice is healing and nurturing my body. I am loving and forgiving in every moment and have more energy each day. I am beautiful, with youthful skin and an open mind.
(Even if you don’t entirely believe what you are saying, stick with it. You are rewiring your brain, which takes a bit of coaxing. Like any muscle, with regular practice, you will see results. The subconscious mind responds really well to repetition, so get cracking!)
Open Your Mind to Getting Better
Though not necessarily easy, this two-step process is the absolute key to getting better, and has the potential to radically alter your future.
It certainly changed my life. Like, completely.
And it’s totally free.
Imagine it: you totally (and dare I say, miraculously) transform your life, love, health, and relationships with some tiny little blog advice and boom!
You’re teaching aerobics like you’ve always wanted.
You’re a make-up artist on film sets, living the dream.
You can make love and have babies and eat cake and hold kittens and blow bubbles because you are strong and vital and well, inside and out.
Do this with me.
Educate your body. Beautify your mind. Heal your life.
Yes oh baby yes.
Tell me: Where has your healing journey taken you? Where have you been and what did you discover about who you really are? What pain have you overcome to become a bright shiny thing of absolute beauty? I want to know.
Sick of being a sick, sad sister?