Healing Through the Holidays Part 2: Managing Energy, Expectations and Food
Without a Medical Meltdown
As the holidays approach, the panic starts to creep in.
What to eat…since your diet is totally weird right now.
What to wear…since you feel a bit bloated and not all sexy.
How long to stay…since you’re tired and don’t want to have to explain to everyone why you’re not drinking.
What to say…since you’re just not feeling it this year.
Healing through the holidays is boring.
Healing through the holidays is scary.
Healing through the holidays is hard – healing while there’s pumpkin pie and mountains of mashed potatoes is even harder.
It’s a commitment to rock solid intention.
It’s knowing that you’ll get through it, even if you don’t feel like you will.
It’s fist pumping victories and ass-kicking lessons.
This is part two of Healing Through the Holidays, focusing on the red hot trigger points energy, expectations and food. (You can catch part one HERE.)
It’s just real life stuff for real life honies who are healing and hoping and holidaying.
1. Managing Your Energy
As an introvert, this is huge for me. I never knew how to protect my vital energy from being wasted or taken by others.
Parties left me depleted and anti-social.
The holidays filled me with anxiety and resentment.
I constantly felt like everyone was just sucking the life from my bones.
When I discovered energetic boundaries, huge shifts happened for me.
Particularly when you are in a healing transition, your energy requires very careful tending – and I am talking physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual energy here. All forms contribute to a feeling of wellbeing in different ways.
With practice, you can put boundaries in place that allow for conscious flow and release of energy that is fulfilling for you and others, while also protective and restorative.
- Bob Proctor says: “Don’t go as often, don’t stay as long.” Show your face, give some hugs, kiss your gran, and then slip away. Skip office drinks and go instead to mom’s cookie decorating do. Simple, easy.
- If your ex, pushy relatives, or maniac sister are going to be there and you can’t face it, don’t. If the stress is going to kick off a flare or trigger two weeks of mental agony for you, get rid get rid get rid.
- Prepare a mini script to help manage inquisitive or invasive conversations (and small talk – ugh!). Pick 3-4 things you are happy to talk about and stick to those topics. Choose 3-4 good questions to ask the other person – everyone loves to talk about themselves and will walk away totally gratified by your flattering interest. Simple (yet deep) questions like, “What’s your biggest challenge right now?” and “What are you enjoying most about life right now?” can lead to genuine interest and conversation. Just keep them talking and listen with intention.
- Sandwich less enjoyable tasks and experiences between stuff you’re really looking forward to. Balance out any anxiety or unpleasantness with time spent on your own doing something that really fills you with joy.
2. Inspiring Recipes
Healing food does not come in the shape of a reindeer, dyed special edition red. It just doesn’t.
But you don’t have to eat expensive cardboard replicas of actual food to enjoy your holiday healing eating experience.
Go off the wall.
Turkey and gravy can go blow one.
Get some wild mushrooms involved.
Bust out locally sourced kefir.
Refuse to cook anything traditional.
Take a risk and do all new recipes (no one needs pink popcorn balls – they really don’t).
3. Managing Expectations
The expectation hang-over is worse than any booze fuelled blow out.
It will beat you up, deflate your balloons, and ruin your best dress.
If you’re new to this healing thing, chances are the holidays are going to feel like a slap in face.
It’s not a shame or a failure or anything negative at all.
It’s different and unfamiliar – beautiful seeds for much needed change!
Plant them with an open mind and heart.
Be willing to accept, instead of resisting everything.
- Louise Hay always suggests looking in the mirror and saying to yourself “I am willing to change. I release limiting blockages. I release the need for resistance.” This will ease you into a mindset of love and acceptance for the new way of life you are embracing. It takes practice, so stick with it (and if lots of negative emotions kick off, then you know you’re on the right track!!)
- Making it clear to everyone that you have different needs this year will help to avoid awkward confrontations and embarrassing conversations.
- Writing down 10 things you are grateful for each morning will take the edge off any disappointments or sadness. A grateful heart attracts abundance and healing.
4. Bring Your Own Food and Drink
Sometimes you won’t have the opportunity to plan beforehand and arrange an alternative menu with the host; in this case, you’ll have to bring your own food, drink, etc.
You are going to feel weird and suspicious at first, especially if your food looks totally different from everyone else’s.
But unless you’re going to a.) starve or b.) get so hangry you eventually eat the nasty mystery meat casserole and jell-o salad, you have to have a contingency plan:
- You can go in all guns blazing like I do, and take a full meal to be dished up and eaten alongside your guests. This means I get to socialize like a human, enjoy nourishing, balanced food, and avoid blood sugar bomb-outs. Sitting at a table full of eating people and just not eating makes everyone feel weird and the host feel even worse. After a few minutes of quizzical looks (if anyone even notices), it’ll be forks flying and full bellies. No worries.
- You can eat plenty before-hand, skillfully avoid the meal, and keep a bunker full of snacks in your bag. If anyone asks, just refer to the doctor prescribed diet line. If they kick up a stink, all you have to remember is that they are feeling insecure and it’s not about you.
- If you’re at a bar, work drinks, or informal party, hold a small plate of food or a sparkly drink – even if it’s carrot sticks and sparkling water with a lime. It will satisfy onlookers that you are partaking – otherwise they’ll be all, “ooh, you need a drink, here’s one,” every five seconds. Or, worse, start asking rude questions about why you’re not drinking (are you pregnant?!) or eating (but you’re so slim already!). No need.
Last and Most Importantly
Your healing experience, whether it’s covered in fake snow and glitter or hiding from Auntie Flo’s scary mystery meat casserole, is up to you.
Your perception is everything.
Your joy is waiting.
Put the twinkly lights on your journey – wherever you are.
Whether you’re just starting out and scared, dealing with a flare, or stuck in a rut – you can have whatever sort of experience you choose.
Energy, expectations and food are just small pieces to the holiday puzzle – read Part one here, and look out for parts three and four in the coming weeks.
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