How Get Really Healthy and Heal with Purpose and Meaning (For Real)

It’s all out of control. Bills due. Deadlines passed. Appointments missed. Brain baked.

You hate being sick.

You hate your body.

You’re scared.

You don’t know what to do.

You don’t even care that life is burning down around you, all you know is it you’re over it. 

All you can do is hide under your duvet, binge watching the world spiral away from you.

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You’re disconnected. Dissatisfied. Disillusioned.

 

If you’re not bored, you’re scared. And if you’re not scared, you’re absolutely terrified.

 

Or worse: you feel like you’re barely existing at all.

 

What are you even doing with your life?

 

It’s the question that so often gets asked…but have you ever taken the time to really answer it? Spent even five minutes feeling the weight of it in your hands?

 

It’s the ultimate soul bearing exercise; spelling out our fears, doubts and inadequacies in bright neon lights. Most people shy away from the truth of it.

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Not knowing means not having to take responsibility. It means you can sit back and blame life for all the awful circumstances that tie you down and trip you up.

 

I’ll never lose the weight because I’m sick and tired.

Nothing ever goes my way.

Everything is out of my control, so why bother?

I’m too ugly to attract my ideal partner, so I’ll be alone forever.

 

You make friends with disappointment and bunk down for a long life of short sightedness.

 

A Better Way To Get Really Healthy and Heal 

What if there was a better way, though? What if slogging through, numb and despondent, wasn’t the only option?

Chances are you’d say, ha ha very funny. Get real.

Go on. Say it. I don’t mind.

Because I got the truth serum right up in here, and if you don’t want a taste, go on and whine to ya mama like always.

Ah, see.

Now you want it.

Alright, I’m gonna sock it to ya, butcha gotta be ready for it:

Conscious living.

Uh huh. I said it. I’m gonna say it again.

Conscious living.

Chew on that for a minute while I bring you up to speed on what I mean.

What is Conscious Living?

I know it sounds a little pretentious, but take it from a girl who grew up in a trailer; it ain’t.

Conscious living is simply choosing to live with meaning and purpose.

Not just when you are on vacation in Greece. Not just on social media where you can doctor your life to appear meaningful and exciting. Not just for Christmas and birthdays.

I mean all the time. Choosing for every moment in every old day to hold meaning and purpose. Making a conscious choice to connect.

When you make dinner. When you commute. When you buy new clothes. When you put on make-up. When you take medication and go to the gym.

Conscious living doesn’t require that you put a disco ball in the kitchen and dance from dawn till dusk (though you can – no judgements). It just means bringing your mind into the moment. Deciding to care. Noticing the robins singing as you take out the trash. Turning the radio up when stuck in a traffic jam, and being thankful you have a car in the first place.

You are free to find purpose and meaning in everything; your breath, your coffee, your nail polish. Everything.

Get Really Healthy with Freedom and Responsibility

Living consciously also means taking responsibility. For your choices and actions, and how they effect your life and others’. Not blaming, but learning. Not failing, but pivoting.

 

It’s paying attention to how you feel when you eat. Where the food came from and how it impacts the earth. How the chemicals in your cosmetics may be hurting your health – or the rain forest. Where you direct your energy and what it manifests.

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But living consciously is also living in freedom. Freedom to see the beauty and wonder. Freedom to connect. Freedom to consider the deeper meaning and purpose. Freedom from getting distracted by the same old junk everyone else is obsessed with. Freedom from complaining about the weather and traffic and long lines. 

How to Connect to Your Life, Get Really Healthy, and Heal with Purpose and Meaning

This will be different for everyone, so don’t allow any judgement or self-consciousness to creep in. Let your truth to flow.

Start by connecting to yourself and Find Who You Really Are; it’s an awesome guide to help you unearth the beautiful gems of your soul and kick start conscious living.

 

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Take it further and get super juicy with 58 ways to Save the World With Your Brain, Body, and Beauty. Total inspiration for living a life full of meaning and purpose and wonderfulness.

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If you’re ready, bring on the hot sauce and learn How to Be a Beautiful, Wild, Savage Thing.

 

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Live Your Life Right Now. Get Really Healthy. Heal Your Head Off.

Find your purpose and meaning.

Don’t wait.

Connect now.

Breathe it in.

Life is waiting for you.

Live the heck out of it.

 

Tell me. Did you have a life changing experience when atop a Peruvian mountain? What draws you in and makes you feel so deeply connected to this life? How are you changing the status quo? I want to know. 

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Your body gives you mixed signals all the time: You’re exhausted during the day, but can’t sleep at night. You crave carbs all the time, but then feel bloated and irritable when you eat them. You gain weight when you’re on a diet and lose weight when you stop exercising…

What is going on?

The truth is that our beautiful bodies are infinitely more complicated than we’ve been lead to believe. In spite of decades of medical reassurances that one-size-fits-all pharmaceuticals are the answer, the fact is, we are intrinsically unique. Despite statistics, “norms”, and base line numbers, every single body requires specialized care.

What Does This Have to Do with You?

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This means that no matter how emphatic your fitness coach is about high intensity interval training, it might actually not be for you. Similarly, a vegan, Paleo, or South Beach diet may be the worst possible choice for your health and body.

I wish I had one sure-fire, all around, you-betcha method to heal your bod and strengthen your mind and connect with conscious purpose in life.

But I don’t.

However, I can teach you a little something about developing Health Intuition – which is the single best thing you can do for life long healing.

Most people put their health in the hands of doctors – in fact, they practically throw it at them, desperate to numb the pain, fix the problems, and forget about the whole thing. They want a hands-off approach, with no responsibility and no inconvenience.

Ah, honey. I wish.

But your health is your power, and your intuition is the finely tuned wisdom that curates that power into genuine vitality – physically, mentally, spiritually, the whole party.

It’s a shame, and maybe even a little depressing, but no one is going to advocate for your health if you don’t. And you can’t possibly get very far if you aren’t intimately acquainted with the intricate language of your physiology. A doctor will never really know what’s best for you and how those pills will affect your moods, emotions, and psyche. Only you can.

How Do You Develop Health Intuition?

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We’ve all been taught to mitigate symptoms and numb the pain – how do you go into your experience and extract meaning, without getting overwhelmed? How do you create and strengthen the muscles of intuition, so that you can be your own best doctor and heal with intelligence and clarity?

Developing health intuition is about moving away from pain and confusion into a place of mindful experience and understanding. It’s about listening with love and guiding yourself back into balance when things go awry. It’s interpreting the experience you have in your mind and body as meaningful; honoring its signals to achieve greater harmony within yourself and in the world around you.

In time, you will become accustomed to the language of your mind and body; at this point, you will have a much greater sense of exactly what you need in any given situation; more sleep, less stress, more B vitamins. Essentially, you are strengthening your gut instinct with regards to your health and wellbeing.

It’s certainly not a hard science, and I don’t intend to mislead you into thinking this is a health obsession that will suddenly reveal all answers to all things; it’s a gift of internal wisdom that provides freedom from fear based living (omg, why do I feel this way!?) and independence from generic advice (that is ultimately useless to you and your unique situation.

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A crucial aspect of developing an intuition of your own mind and body is turning the volume down on life. Modern existence is rife with constant stimulus; you must must must step back, unplug, and unwind.

Distraction is often a coping mechanism; it allows us to drown out the unpleasant, boring, and uncomfortable aspects of the day to day. However, developing health intuition is the opposite of this. It’s noticing everything with intention. It’s digging out the root, finding the meaning, and being honest about cause and effect.

When you reduce the amount of chatter in your life, listening to your own mind and body becomes much easier – and, with practice, second nature. Unsubscribe from demanding newsletters, leave your headphones at home, and recycle the gossips mags; the senses of your heart will have a wealth of wisdom to share with you – about your emotional triggers, deepest needs, and the healing paths that are exactly right for you.

Consciously customize your life to be in tune with your mind and body to create a beautiful mindset and thriving health.

Do Less, Be More

It’s frowned upon in our society, but doing less opens the door to becoming more. As with distractions, doing is a coping strategy and being busy is seen as a sign of purpose and success. Aside from being a smoke screen for stress and insecurity, busy clouds your ability to feel and distinguish – and is often a huge contributing factor for ill health and lack of well being.

Examine all the areas in your life that cause significant strain, drama, and upheaval. Can you disengage from them, even temporarily? Can you quit the committee, avoid the fake socials, and work from home once a week?

Instead of bulldozing your life with busyness, give yourself space. Pencil in quiet time. Get an adult coloring book. Go for a walk. Be alone. Find what feels good for you, and give your mind and body the chance to speak to you. Gain clarity by calming it down and scaling back.

Food Journaling

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Everything from brain fog to mood and energy levels effect and are effected by what you consume – but blind speculation will only frustrate and confuse. Sticking with this practice for a month will give you a bird’s eye view of your eating habits and how they might be influencing your wellbeing.

This is not obsessive calorie counting or an exercise in self judgement. This is the single best way to orient your mind toward recognizing actions and reactions. No need to be meticulous, just be honest. You may be surprised what sort of patterns crop up that you wouldn’t have been able to pin-point otherwise.

In time, this will enable you to identify specific signals from your body, and respond calmly and effectively.

 

Elimination Dieting
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I hesitate to mention this one – a.) because it’s so boring and b.) because it can lead to unhealthy nutrient restriction.

However, I will proceed with caution, because I do believe it offers a brilliant chance to dial into your body’s inner workings. Providing you stick to the guidelines and know that elimination diets are designed for short periods of time, they can compliment your food journaling journey.

Intuition starts with simplicity. By paring down your menu, you can easily isolate different foods or food groups to determine how you react to them. It’s almost impossible to identify the effect a specific food has on you without minimizing the variables. Potential culprits can hide in unlikely places, so in order to get to the bottom of your hormone imbalances, bloating, and PMS, develop a knowing relationship what you eat to enhance your health intuition.

 

Learn with Purpose

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Although intuition is cultivation from within, external influence can sharpen your tools for maximum effect. Now that we’ve ditched the distractions, set aside some of that spare time and space in your life with intelligent learning; that is to say, give up the drama series binge (which is just distracting fluff and filler) and bring more meaning into your day.

Read inspiring books that teach you how to connect with your inner truth. There are podcasts and documentaries for every niche; listen during your commute, while you cook dinner, and when you brush your teeth.

Adopt a practice of positive affirmations and empower your subconscious mind to teach your cells how to heal themselves with love and enthusiasm! Test out different self-help modalities. Find exactly what works for your individual needs and preferences. Open your mind to wider possibilities, all while honing your own perception of self.

 

Prepare For Surprises and Contradictions

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True intuition knows that hard and fast rules often only apply to a small portion of life – the rest of the time, it’s a complete jumble of fact, feeling, experience, and unexpected outcomes. Creating your own health intuition means listening to your body to develop a dynamic ebb and flow.

It’s combining medication and meditation, if you must. It’s sticking to your guns, and being flexible; respecting your body with nourishing food, and celebrating your grandma’s birthday with scrumptious carrot cake.

Finding balance and alignment is a system of give and take; moreover, it’s knowing when to give, and when to take. It’s not being “correct”, but recognizing that your mind and body can hold two opposing views at the same time.

Allowing yourself to live in this freedom of flow will dispel any hard-line thinking (and subsequent guilt) that often accompanies strict healing protocols and intense ideologies.

A Final Word on Health Intuition

It’s vital for you to know that these parameters are intended to bring you freedom and understanding – not eternal restriction and misery.

Use these tools to sharpen your senses. Get the most out of your wellness routine by becoming your own best advocate – knowing when, how, and why to seek help, take herbal supplements, get acupuncture, and so on.

You will discover exactly what works for you. You will avoid wasting precious time, money, and energy on stuff that just doesn’t work for you (and be OK with it!).

Get intuitive, my lovely.

 

Tell me. Have you discovered the secret to harmonious hormones? What happened when your body hit rock bottom? How has your intuition ever saved you from disaster. I want to know. 

You just need to get better, my sad, sick sister.

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You’ve reached the edge. You’ve been sick for a long time. You’re staring down into the darkest, deepest abyss of your soul wondering…will you fall? Will you jump?

You’ve been fobbed off by doctors, ignored by your friends and misunderstood by your mother. The symptoms are getting worse, the meds aren’t working, and it’s all you can do to get out of bed.

What now? How do you go on with work? Your struggling relationships? Paying the bills and simply living your life?

So much pain. Confusion. Frustration. Disappointment.

But are you really ready to find true healing?

To heal and thrive with purpose?

What do I mean? How could you NOT want to be well?

Well, that’s where it gets a bit sticky.

Sometimes the truth is, deep down, we don’t want to be well. I know that sounds pretty disgusting, given how bad you feel right now. I’m not trolling. This is not provocation for the sake of reaction.

What I am saying, however, is that you need to ask yourself this very serious question in order to truly start healing. In order to see genuine, lasting results. In order to leave it all behind and move forward with your beautiful life.

Are You Really Ready to Get Healthy and Heal?

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You might be surprised.

For many, the answer is no.

Getting raw and honest about this, most people will make excuses when it comes to healing. It sounds insane, I know. But how many times have you said:

I don’t have the money.

Maybe later, when I have time.

I have a lot to do right now.

Probably more than you’d like to admit.

It’s human, and it’s OK. But it probably means that, up till now, you haven’t really been ready to get well.

Illness is as much a state of mind as it is a physical condition. I am not suggesting you’re crazy. Not a bit. But what I am saying, is that your experience (and results) very much depend upon your mindset. It’s not the actual illness or remedy…it’s your perception and reaction to it.

Making Your Health a Priority

If you’re ready to find true healing, your wellbeing must be a priority. It can’t be something you only engage with when it’s convenient, or only take interest in when it feels good. It’s a commitment to yourself, right to the end.

It’s not what you want to hear, but making strategic sacrifices is the quickest way to navigate yourself to a state of thriving vitality. This means setting financial priorities to invest in a functional medical practitioner who will heal you from tip to toe, instead splurging on a name brand laptop. This means setting social priorities and postponing the Mexico trip so you can follow through with your healing protocol for the best possible results (and enjoy Mexico way more, as a result).

This means finding purpose through your journey. Giving up complaining and suffering, and taking up self-exploration and paths of progress instead. Sleeping more, eating better, and paying attention to your body with care and kindness.

I am not advocating orthorexia – an obsession with “healthy living” is harmful and destructive. I am calling for a commitment to self. Paying particular attention to detail for a period of time that will yield lasting results. After, you can focus on other amazing priorities in the future with hysterical vim and vigor.

A Barbie trying to decide to find true healing or buy a laptop

Letting go of Excuses

It’s not fair. Why you? It’s too hard. You can’t stand it. Being ready to find true healing means letting go of excuses. Completely. Giving up the temptation to host a pity party and gossip with all the guests about how hard your life is.

It’s true: being sick sucks, 100%. A decade of parasites, SIBO, Candida, Chronic Fatigue and H. Pylori taught me that lesson good and proper. I blamed, complained, waled, and gnashed my teeth. But it didn’t do me a single favor. In fact, it only made me bitter and resentful (and sicker).

If you’re ready for this ship to sail, it doesn’t matter how tired you are. How much you love Diet Coke. How you love to get drunk and binge on doughnuts. This is not a moral judgement; as a human, I wish you blissful indulgence and enjoyment in every form. But right now, doughnuts are not your priority – and you need to be clear with yourself about that…otherwise you will give into that temptation every time it knocks on your door.

Kick out the excuses and replace them with actionable goals. Every time you feel an excuse rising to the surface, write it down. Tape it to the mirror. Stick it along side your health goals and see how it measures up: This is too hard verses an amazing hiking holiday with your partner in the Amazon. No excuses.

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Getting Attention From Others

I say with this utmost love and respect, but some people do not want to find true healing for the simple fact that they adore the attention that being sick brings: Sympathy from friends. Get Well cards and beautiful flowers. A doting partner that waits on them, hand and foot. Concern when they tell others that they’re going in for another hospital appointment.

It’s a real trigger for some…but it’s also a formula that works. Instant results (that you can easily get from people you don’t even know!).

There are many psychological theories that explore this behavior, but the point is, you may have some needy subconscious programming that is keeping you ill. Your mindset may be working against your best efforts to truly achieve your wellness goals.

There’s no need to wallow in shame or judgement if this is you; recognize, accept, change. You may need to dig deeper than supplements and detox plans to get to the heart (or brain) of this situation; your subconscious mind may need some tending. Hypnotherapy and meditation are great places to start (today, for free, at home!); Emotional Freedom Technique, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and personal counselling may also help you to come to terms with this blocker.

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Focusing on the Negative

It’s so difficult to reign in the resentment when you’re down and out with chronic illness. I mean, what a waste of life. And what a shed ton of money I’ve already spent. And this is just stupid, stupid, stupid, I give up.

There are two parts to being a successful Negative Nancy: one focuses on everything that’s wrong, and the other zeros in on everything you don’t want in life.

Noticing what’s wrong with your body (and subsequently, your life) is easy. Enjoyable, even. It seems cathartic to hate on every pebble and thread that does you wrong. But all it really does is draw your attention to how much hurt there is in the world – giving you very little encouragement to come up and out of your illness. Why leave your cave if the outside is hostile and horrible?

Secondly, we tend to spend a great deal of energy thinking about what we don’t want, rather than what we do: I don’t want to be sick. I don’t want to feel bad. I don’t want to be tired. These thoughts only reinforce a negative mindset.

Instead, practice gratitude. Notice and be thankful for everything that’s going well for you right now – even if it’s only tiny things: I’m thankful for fresh air, that the sun is shining, and I am able to afford my medication.

Re-framing your thoughts into positive affirmations can help curtail the negative feedback loop of the don’t want mindset; I’m healing every day. I’m so grateful that my body is carrying me through this trial. I’m want to move toward a state of energy and vitality

Both practices will take effort – you are rewiring circuitry that has been functioning in a set way for a long time – but stick with it. The rewards will extend well beyond your health.

Existing Without Illness

Seems like a no-brainer, right? But the reality of living without illness can be a little heavy; counter-intuitive as it seems, it can even be straight up daunting and scary.

It boils down to two things: change and responsibility.

As a species, humans are wired to fear change, and are therefore creatures of habit. We create habit and ritual around everything we do, often without noticing. So, if you’ve been sick for months, years or even decades, you will have created a lifestyle around your condition that eventually becomes familiar and safe (even if it also feels unpleasant). Taking pills, going to appointments, avoiding social engagements, feeling sick when you eat bread, etc. You come to expect it.

By getting your health in order, the sudden prospect of not having these comforting patterns to lean on can upset the rhythm you may have (unconsciously) come to rely on. You may have more time, less structure, or more obligations. What do you do with yourself? How do you transition out of these patterns? What if you can’t cope?

This leads us to the second part: responsibility. Being ill often absolves you of having to take responsibility for your life: how you feel, what you do, why you can’t eat birthday cake, why you leave parties early, why you didn’t get a promotion. It gives you an almighty excuse for just about everything (and a heavy crutch to lean on when you feel hard done by).

However, being well opens up a whole cavern of responsibility you must now take upon yourself; deciding to set goals (and achieve them), accepting that you didn’t get the job, following your (big, scary) dreams, letting go of limiting beliefs and old relationships that no longer serve you.

Both of these things will challenge you, inside and out. Make you want to hide. Send you scurrying back to old (unhelpful) ways. You must prepare yourself for the changes that will come, and own your life without fear. These are both crucial aspects to creating a beautiful mindset and taking back your brain, body, and beauty forever.

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A Final Word on Health and Healing

Maybe you’re not ready to find true healing yet. And you know what, that’s fine. It’s an important distinction to make. True healing will never come from a place of force or resentment. You’re not a bad person or a failure if you’re not ready to go all in.

Give yourself as much time and space as you need, so when you are ready, you can come at this thing with pistols drawn.

In the mean time, start cultivating your beautiful mindset. Explore who you are a little. Find out what you really want and where you want to go. From there, who knows?

And when you get there, when you decide it’s time to tame the beast, I’ll be here.

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Just get better. 

For FREE

You can.

Right now.

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