Healing Through the Holidays Part 3: Celebrating without Food and Treating Yourself
Honestly, you don’t need another thing to think about.
You’re already using all totally alternative ingredients.
You’re already doing yoga and chi gong and rubbing essential oils into your soul.
You’re already spending a ton of money on supplements and organics and toxin free soap.
What more do you have to do?
Why does it need to be harder than that?
How could it possibly be more complicated?
It’s funny, that.
How the holidays just amplify everything.
Some good. Some bad. Some insane.
But when you’re on your healing journey, the holidays can feel huge – in a not so great way.
Healing Through the Holidays Part 3 is the antidote to this – Read parts one and two for the comprehensive survival guide. LINKS HERE!
1. Stick to Your Guns
What a sham.
This is the one time of year went Auntie Aileen makes her famous caramel cake.
The smell of gingerbread makes you feel like a kid again.
You love nothing more than spiced wine and a country market.
And you can’t.
Because you’re being punished with this stupid diet and meds and all you can think about is what you aren’t allowed to eat and do – which is pretty much everything worth eating and doing.
Deprivation is painful.
Feeling left-out and restricted at a time of supposed celebration is lame.
But when it’s over (and it will end), and everyone’s gained 15 pounds, run their bank accounts dry, and their skin is a nasty mess from so much toxic overload, you will be shining.
It is always worth it to stick to your guns. Society will ensure that the holidays happen again, just as always, every year – so skipping one or two seasons of excess, honestly, will only do you good.
- Create and refer to a healing vision board, goals, and visualization practice to bolster your resolve when the cheese dip is calling your name. Keeping up a solid ritual with them all year-round will make it easier when times of candied-crises arise.
2. Give Yourself a Healing Treat (or Ask for One!)
If you’re feeling glum about all the stuff you’re missing this season, take the helm and give yourself a healing treat.
It may be dried mango trail mix or home-made soap.
Or, if you’re mega fancy, an infrared sauna session, holistic facial, aromatherapy session, etc.
Bliss out in restorative ways to remind yourself that you are healing quickly, comfortably, and completely.
It’s not necessarily going to be obvious to others that you’d rather not get the usual tray of brownies, cocktail mixers, and cheese board for Christmas.
If you’re in the habit of gift exchange, it’s OK to say that you’re shifting gears this year and trying something new.
If it feels right, you might suggest alternatives like essential oils, a body brush, or organic fruit – all small, easy, and inexpensive options.
3. Reinvent the Holidays
Stop insisting that festivities happen in the same way as they have for a hundred years.
Holidays are often just old habits on repeat – eating too much, seeing people you’d rather not, huge amounts of waste, and a lot of joyous expectation.
I know I’m being cynical – but I’m not sorry.
Whatever you choose to believe or hold dear, you can opt out of garbage.
You can define the parameters of your celebrations.
Ditch the old useless stuff.
You don’t have to go, do, be, accept, and deal with anything.
Sometimes, traditions suck.
Reinvent your meals, your gifts, your parties, everything.
If your holidays are not healing experiences, it’s definitely time to capital C Change the channel.
4. Celebrate Without Food
If a specific dietary change is a big part of your healing protocol, the first thing you’ll notice is how everything revolves around food.
It’s an obsession.
Obviously, the holidays are the mega hulking steroid version of this phenomenon.
And if you are choosing to avoid certain foods or groups, it can be a social shoot-out.
But a useful (and little known) fact here, is that it doesn’t have to revolve around face-stuffing.
You’re not going to change anyone’s feasting traditions by opting out, but you can get festive in millions of other ways that do not involve fine china and mystery sausages.
Shift the focus from food and get creative about different times, places, and types of festive fiascos.
5. Holidays on Your Own Terms
Host the kind of celebration you’d like to have – doesn’t mean you have to cook a 12 course meal and chop down a tree and hand-make stocking stuffers.
Go for a holistic massage and a juice bar instead of dinner and cocktails (they’ll probably end up costing about the same).
Or take a long walk and hang out bird seed bombs for hungry critters.
Volunteer at a women’s shelter.
Get invigorated about seeing life through a healing lens – which is with true gratitude, energy, and connection.
Last and Most Importantly
You deserve holidays that are full of healing.
Big, shiny, crazy, wonderful times with all the good stuff.
Otherwise…what’s the point?
You don’t have to spend a fortune, see a psychiatrist, or check into rehab.
It’s actually really simple.
And if it’s not simple, it should be – so calm down, pare down, and sit down.
Finished with Healing through the Holidays Part 3? Hit up Part 1 and Part 2, and look out for Part 4 in a couple weeks!
You got this.
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