Healing Through the Holidays Part 3: Celebrating without Food and Treating Yourself

(without Cheating!)

 

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Honestly, you don’t need another thing to think about.

You’re already using all totally alternative ingredients.

You’re already doing yoga and chi gong and rubbing essential oils into your soul.

You’re already spending a ton of money on supplements and organics and toxin free soap.

What more do you have to do?

Why does it need to be harder than that?

How could it possibly be more complicated?

It’s funny, that.

How the holidays just amplify everything.

Some good. Some bad. Some insane.

But when you’re on your healing journey, the holidays can feel huge – in a not so great way.

Healing Through the Holidays Part 3 is the antidote to this – Read parts one and two for the comprehensive survival guide. LINKS HERE!

1. Stick to Your Guns

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What a sham.

This is the one time of year went Auntie Aileen makes her famous caramel cake.

The smell of gingerbread makes you feel like a kid again.

You love nothing more than spiced wine and a country market.

And you can’t.

Because you’re being punished with this stupid diet and meds and all you can think about is what you aren’t allowed to eat and do – which is pretty much everything worth eating and doing.

Deprivation is painful.

Feeling left-out and restricted at a time of supposed celebration is lame.

But when it’s over (and it will end), and everyone’s gained 15 pounds, run their bank accounts dry, and their skin is a nasty mess from so much toxic overload, you will be shining.

It is always worth it to stick to your guns. Society will ensure that the holidays happen again, just as always, every year – so skipping one or two seasons of excess, honestly, will only do you good.

  1. Create and refer to a healing vision board, goals, and visualization practice to bolster your resolve when the cheese dip is calling your name. Keeping up a solid ritual with them all year-round will make it easier when times of candied-crises arise.

2. Give Yourself a Healing Treat (or Ask for One!)

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If you’re feeling glum about all the stuff you’re missing this season, take the helm and give yourself a healing treat.

It may be dried mango trail mix or home-made soap.

Or, if you’re mega fancy, an infrared sauna session, holistic facial, aromatherapy session, etc.

Bliss out in restorative ways to remind yourself that you are healing quickly, comfortably, and completely.

It’s not necessarily going to be obvious to others that you’d rather not get the usual tray of brownies, cocktail mixers, and cheese board for Christmas.

If you’re in the habit of gift exchange, it’s OK to say that you’re shifting gears this year and trying something new.

If it feels right, you might suggest alternatives like essential oils, a body brush, or organic fruit – all small, easy, and inexpensive options.

3. Reinvent the Holidays

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Stop insisting that festivities happen in the same way as they have for a hundred years.

Holidays are often just old habits on repeat – eating too much, seeing people you’d rather not, huge amounts of waste, and a lot of joyous expectation.

I know I’m being cynical – but I’m not sorry.

Whatever you choose to believe or hold dear, you can opt out of garbage.

You can define the parameters of your celebrations.

Ditch the old useless stuff.

Begin fresh.

Change.

You don’t have to go, do, be, accept, and deal with anything.

Sometimes, traditions suck.

Get rid.

Move on.

Reinvent your meals, your gifts, your parties, everything.

If your holidays are not healing experiences, it’s definitely time to capital C Change the channel.

4. Celebrate Without Food

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If a specific dietary change is a big part of your healing protocol, the first thing you’ll notice is how everything revolves around food.

Everything.

It’s an obsession.

Obviously, the holidays are the mega hulking steroid version of this phenomenon.

And if you are choosing to avoid certain foods or groups, it can be a social shoot-out.

But a useful (and little known) fact here, is that it doesn’t have to revolve around face-stuffing.

You’re not going to change anyone’s feasting traditions by opting out, but you can get festive in millions of other ways that do not involve fine china and mystery sausages.

Shift the focus from food and get creative about different times, places, and types of festive fiascos.

5. Holidays on Your Own Terms

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Host the kind of celebration you’d like to have – doesn’t mean you have to cook a 12 course meal and chop down a tree and hand-make stocking stuffers.

Go for a holistic massage and a juice bar instead of dinner and cocktails (they’ll probably end up costing about the same).

Or take a long walk and hang out bird seed bombs for hungry critters.

Volunteer at a women’s shelter.

Get invigorated about seeing life through a healing lens – which is with true gratitude, energy, and connection.

Last and Most Importantly

You deserve holidays that are full of healing.

Big, shiny, crazy, wonderful times with all the good stuff.

Otherwise…what’s the point?

You don’t have to spend a fortune, see a psychiatrist, or check into rehab.

It’s actually really simple. 

And if it’s not simple, it should be – so calm down, pare down, and sit down.

Finished with Healing through the Holidays Part 3? Hit up Part 1 and Part 2, and look out for Part 4 in a couple weeks!

You got this. 

xoxo

 

 

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Healing Through the Holidays Part 1: Diet, Parties, and Social Sabotage 

When You’re Sick and Exhausted 

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It’s unfair that it even comes to this, but navigating healing through the holidays can be exhausting, anxiety filled, and potentially progress-wrecking.

Particularly if you are prone to flare-ups or are at a critical point in your healing journey, the holidays are just a gift wrapped hand-grenade.

While your healing journey is deeply personal and firstly about navigating yourself, dealing with the social aspect cannot be underestimated or ignored.

 

With a little careful planning, expectation management, and simple strategy, you can easily outsmart the holiday hexes that would otherwise send you spiraling into mental, emotional, and physical disaster.

This 4 part series is about realistic, honest strategies for coping through times of good cheer and merriment, also known as the healing danger zone of most terrible and unmitigated sabotage, also known as The Holidays.

 

While I cannot protect you from awful bobbly snowman sweaters and Christmas ornaments on store shelves before Halloween is even over, I can impart sanity saving advice that ACTUALLY WORKS to get you through the particularly trying season of holiday healing.

No sensational claims. No gift buying guides. No tinsel.

Healing Through the Holidays: Part I

1. Don’t Go to Parties

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I’m not saying you can’t or shouldn’t. By all means – get your glitter on and light some candles. All I’m saying is you don’t have to. These things come around every single year. Skipping won’t kill anyone. You don’t even have to explain yourself.

You’re not obligated.

It’s not required.

You’re not a bad human for opting out.

There is no blame or guilt.

If you’re sick, tired, can’t face it, are over it, and otherwise not filled with the spirit of pumpkin spiced hysteria, then stay home and read. Or sleep. Drink tea. Watch junky TV. Meditate. Prune your Bonsai.

Point is, if you want to, do, if you don’t, don’t.

You’re healing through the holidays – not suffering through them.

2. Evaluate Your Mindset

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The holidays are directly linked to our childhoods: good and bad memories, expectations, disappointments, friends, family, abundance, lack. Your experience now is based on years of conditioning.

For some, it’s truly magical and exciting – but for many (most?) it’s taxing, tedious, and overwhelming. There may be some painful roots to these feelings that need digging out and examining.

To help you cope in the short term (as roots often take quite a lot of time and energy to extract and deal with) try some of these FREE daily healing, calming practices for immediate (and lasting!) relief:

 

      1. Visualization Meditation: Spend 5 mins in the morning or evening conjuring up images of you in your best healed state, enjoying the holidays like a total honey mama. Your brain loves this kind of positive reinforcement and helps to manifest this energy into reality.
      2. Hypnosis: 15 mins in the morning or evening will reprogram your subconscious mind to heal from the inside out. It’s basically taking a nap while listening to some soothing, healing audio. Easy shit.
      3. Affirmations: Classic, crucial technique here. Create some awesome affirmations that uplift, inspire, and fuel your confidence about the direction you want to heal in. I am healing quickly, comfortably, and completely in this moment. I am safe and protected from all external forces, and healing is happening within me at all times. That kind of thing.
      4. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT, Tapping): There are tons of free vids online. Find a practitioner who speaks to you and give it a try. Deceptively powerful stuff.

3. Make It Clear That You Have Different Needs

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If you’re going to face healing through the holidays all gung-ho, then you should consider making it clear to your host or guests that your needs are a little different this year.

Maybe your best friend is totally cool making her stuffing gluten free.

 

Or, if it’s too complicated to adjust the menu, let the cook know you’ll be supplementing with your own dishes. It may freak them out a little, so prepare for a bit of back-lash.

Even though you deserve to be treated with care on your healing journey, you are the exception – so expecting the whole cast and crew to mold to your needs will cause tension. No drama, no demands.

 

See what sort of collaboration you can create – perhaps you bring a couple of main dishes that can be enjoyed by everyone, but are also healer friendly – you eat, they eat, everyone eats.

If no one digs into your food, all the more left-overs for you. Win.

4. The Diet

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The worst thing you can do around the holidays is tell people you are on a diet. They will make it their life mission to sink your ship.

People can’t stand to be around anyone on a diet – particularly if they are indulging. It feels too much like judgment to them.

As humans, we just want to be part of the collective whole – and the “holiday whole” is a beast. Everyone wants to have a good time – but not to be made to feel guilty about the extra (four) glasses of wine.

 

Sticking to your diet is imperative to healing through the holidays – but if word gets out, you’ll be busted.

To avoid the comments, snears, unsolicited opinions and suggestions of anyone who is NOT on a healing journey (and therefore, not entitled to intervene), get a little official on their buns.

Say something like “I’m on a doctor prescribed diet,” which sounds all very professional and serious. They’re not going to mess with doctor’s orders.

Whereas, if you start saying, “I’m on the Specific Carbohydrate Diet, which means no grains, and it’s designed to rebuild gut health…” they’ll shoot it down as hippie hokum, misconstrue it as weight-loss, or label you as one of those picky, hoity-toity healthy types.

 

Just give them some official (possibly bullshit) line, and they will leave it.

You can apply this to any practice or routine that you are using for healing.

Last and Most Importantly

Your holidays can be healing experiences.

It takes adjustment, creativity, and little bravery (particularly if you cannot rely on booze to get you through this time…).

But I know you can do it.

You can deal.

You can heal.

You can blow up the pumpkin pie with a smile on your face.

 

If you’re actually ready to let go of your pain, and become the person you were born to be – like real and serious and no bullshit –

Get Better for FREE

Because you can.

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You’ve read all the best advice.

 

Even paid quite a lot for some of it.

You’ve tried pills and potions, natural remedies and chemical cocktails.

Maybe you’ve seen a psychiatrist, reflexologist, and gemstone healer.

You’ve tried dry brushing and charcoal detoxes and meditation.

 

You’re not sick because you’re not trying.

 

But you’re not well, even though you’re really trying.

 

But honestly, nothing freaking works. 

 

What the heck?

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If you’ve spent a shed ton on expensive elixirs and miracle therapies, why are you still struggling with the same old demons? Why all the brain fog? Why the hideous acne and hair loss and dry skin? Why don’t you feel beautiful, even with a drawer full of designer lipstick? Why the pain and fatigue and confusion and stupid stupid pointlessness of it all?

 

All you can think is:

I don’t want to be sick anymore.

I don’t want to be sick anymore.

I don’t want to be sick anymore!

Ah ha. There it is. The crux. The answer. The cruelty.

 

Wait, what? Did you miss it?

 

Let me explain.

The Absolute Key To Getting Better

Let me explain something that took me 28 years to stop ignoring. Listen closely because this will change your life in every single way forever and ev.

 

In order to heal, in order for your efforts to fulfill your desires (whether it’s to become more sociable, reduce sun spots and wrinkles, or improve adrenal function) you have to get your brain on board. Have to. Must. No other options.

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That is the key. Right there. Get your brain (and, moreover, your subconscious mind, which is 97% of your thoughts, emotions, and reactions) to do the hard work for you. 

 

You could throw a million dollars, the best supplements, and the most brilliant specialists at your problems…and it will all be for nothing until you get that mindset sorted. 

 

Once you have the gray matter on your side, the landscape of life becomes something beyond what you ever thought possible.

 

How? Read on.

 

The Two-Part Process to Getting Better

It’s natural for us to talk about what we want and don’t want. From infancy, we are trained to think in those terms. I want strawberry ice cream. I don’t want hair on my upper lip. I want to be a millionaire. I don’t want to be sick anymore.

 

However, this social norm presents a healing double edged conundrum that’s so sharp, it’ll skewer your liver and scramble your brains in a second if you’re not careful. Stay with me now, this is massive.

 

In order to find freedom from the suffering of your mind and body, you’ve got to get a hold of this two-part key to getting better.

 

You don’t want to be sick anymore. That’s a given.

So:

1. You have to frame your health and healing goals in the positive tense.

And:

2. You have to get your subconscious mind on board.

 

Let me explain each in detail.

1. Shifting the Negative Focus

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Thinking in terms of what we want and don’t want becomes counter-productive when we get stuck stating what we want by saying what we don’t want.

 

For example, we’ve all thought, I don’t want to be sick anymore! Which is a perfectly reasonable sentiment. But what we really mean is, I want to be healthy, strong, vital and well.

 

See the difference?

 

Making the switch will take some time and effort; I know you don’t want it to rain on your wedding day and you certainly don’t want your tum to be bloated when you go out to dinner in a nice dress.

 

But every time you catch yourself framing what you want in the negative tense, simply redirect. Re-frame the sentiment with a positive spin. You want warm sunny weather for your big day, and you want to feel sexy and amazing in that figure-hugging dress.

 

Similarly, when you think, I don’t want to be sick anymore, dial into the vision you have of yourself being well, and focus on whatever encouraging, positive outcome you truly desire. Set yourself a definitive goal that you can focus on and visualise. It may be that you want to visit Venice and wear a yellow halter top. Or take a sewing class at the local college. Maybe you’ve always wanted to Salsa dance. Whatever it is: focus on going insane with happiness. 

 

2. Getting Better With the Subconscious Mind

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The subconscious mind is a tricky biscuit. It is non-negotiable that we get a grip on it; otherwise, we will constantly be battling against it’s 97% influence over our lives.

However, there are a few tricks to training the subconscious mind to do what we want, and one of them is learning to speak its language.

 

What I said about re-framing the negative focus from I don’t want to I want is the first part. Now, we’re going to refine that sentiment. 

 

You see, the thing is, the subconscious mind is extremely literal. So, when you say, I want, then your subconscious accepts that you are living in a state of wanting. As in, you are simply longing for something, and will continue to yearn for that thing as long as you say, I want. Your subconscious will simply go, “Righty-ho, we are going to want the dickens out of this thing!” As such, you will continue to want and want and want, never to be fulfilled.

 

The way to get around this is to re-frame yet again, by taking the positive focus you have cultivated from I want to the present tense of I am/I have/it is. So, instead of saying, I want to heal, say, I am healing more and more every day. In this way, your subconscious goes, “Oh, OK. So we are healing more everyday. Great. Let’s heal.”

 

Accordingly, your thoughts, emotions, and reactions begin to reflect this subconscious idea that every day you are healing more and more. As we apply this frame work to other areas of our life (particularly our healing journey) it all becomes far less effort and a much more intuitive, natural flow. It becomes habit. Imagine if being amazingly well and happy was simply a habit. As in, easy. Something you do without effort or even thinking.

 

That’s like ultimate success on auto-pilot (delivered in a vintage basket with peach jam).

 

From today, you can now start saying: my yoga practice is healing and nurturing my body. I am loving and forgiving in every moment and have more energy each day. I am beautiful, with youthful skin and an open mind.

(Even if you don’t entirely believe what you are saying, stick with it. You are rewiring your brain, which takes a bit of coaxing. Like any muscle, with regular practice, you will see results. The subconscious mind responds really well to repetition, so get cracking!)

Open Your Mind to Getting Better 

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Though not necessarily easy, this two-step process is the absolute key to getting better, and has the potential to radically alter your future.

It certainly changed my life. Like, completely.

 

And it’s totally free.

 

Imagine it: you totally (and dare I say, miraculously) transform your life, love, health, and relationships with some tiny little blog advice and boom!

You’re teaching aerobics like you’ve always wanted.

 

You’re a make-up artist on film sets, living the dream.

 

You can make love and have babies and eat cake and hold kittens and blow bubbles because you are strong and vital and well, inside and out.

 

Do this with me.

 

Educate your body. Beautify your mind. Heal your life.

 

Yes oh baby yes.

 

Tell me: Where has your healing journey taken you? Where have you been and what did you discover about who you really are? What pain have you overcome to become a bright shiny thing of absolute beauty? I want to know. 

Sick of being a sick, sad sister?

Want to Get Better for FREE?

You can.

Right now.

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You’ve reached the edge. You’ve been sick for a long time. You’re staring down into the darkest, deepest abyss of your soul wondering…will you fall? Will you jump?

You’ve been fobbed off by doctors, ignored by your friends and misunderstood by your mother. The symptoms are getting worse, the meds aren’t working, and it’s all you can do to get out of bed.

What now? How do you go on with work? Your struggling relationships? Paying the bills and simply living your life?

So much pain. Confusion. Frustration. Disappointment.

But are you really ready to find true healing?

To heal and thrive with purpose?

What do I mean? How could you NOT want to be well?

Well, that’s where it gets a bit sticky.

Sometimes the truth is, deep down, we don’t want to be well. I know that sounds pretty disgusting, given how bad you feel right now. I’m not trolling. This is not provocation for the sake of reaction.

What I am saying, however, is that you need to ask yourself this very serious question in order to truly start healing. In order to see genuine, lasting results. In order to leave it all behind and move forward with your beautiful life.

Are You Really Ready to Get Healthy and Heal?

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You might be surprised.

For many, the answer is no.

Getting raw and honest about this, most people will make excuses when it comes to healing. It sounds insane, I know. But how many times have you said:

I don’t have the money.

Maybe later, when I have time.

I have a lot to do right now.

Probably more than you’d like to admit.

It’s human, and it’s OK. But it probably means that, up till now, you haven’t really been ready to get well.

Illness is as much a state of mind as it is a physical condition. I am not suggesting you’re crazy. Not a bit. But what I am saying, is that your experience (and results) very much depend upon your mindset. It’s not the actual illness or remedy…it’s your perception and reaction to it.

Making Your Health a Priority

If you’re ready to find true healing, your wellbeing must be a priority. It can’t be something you only engage with when it’s convenient, or only take interest in when it feels good. It’s a commitment to yourself, right to the end.

It’s not what you want to hear, but making strategic sacrifices is the quickest way to navigate yourself to a state of thriving vitality. This means setting financial priorities to invest in a functional medical practitioner who will heal you from tip to toe, instead splurging on a name brand laptop. This means setting social priorities and postponing the Mexico trip so you can follow through with your healing protocol for the best possible results (and enjoy Mexico way more, as a result).

This means finding purpose through your journey. Giving up complaining and suffering, and taking up self-exploration and paths of progress instead. Sleeping more, eating better, and paying attention to your body with care and kindness.

I am not advocating orthorexia – an obsession with “healthy living” is harmful and destructive. I am calling for a commitment to self. Paying particular attention to detail for a period of time that will yield lasting results. After, you can focus on other amazing priorities in the future with hysterical vim and vigor.

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Letting go of Excuses

It’s not fair. Why you? It’s too hard. You can’t stand it. Being ready to find true healing means letting go of excuses. Completely. Giving up the temptation to host a pity party and gossip with all the guests about how hard your life is.

It’s true: being sick sucks, 100%. A decade of parasites, SIBO, Candida, Chronic Fatigue and H. Pylori taught me that lesson good and proper. I blamed, complained, waled, and gnashed my teeth. But it didn’t do me a single favor. In fact, it only made me bitter and resentful (and sicker).

If you’re ready for this ship to sail, it doesn’t matter how tired you are. How much you love Diet Coke. How you love to get drunk and binge on doughnuts. This is not a moral judgement; as a human, I wish you blissful indulgence and enjoyment in every form. But right now, doughnuts are not your priority – and you need to be clear with yourself about that…otherwise you will give into that temptation every time it knocks on your door.

Kick out the excuses and replace them with actionable goals. Every time you feel an excuse rising to the surface, write it down. Tape it to the mirror. Stick it along side your health goals and see how it measures up: This is too hard verses an amazing hiking holiday with your partner in the Amazon. No excuses.

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Getting Attention From Others

I say with this utmost love and respect, but some people do not want to find true healing for the simple fact that they adore the attention that being sick brings: Sympathy from friends. Get Well cards and beautiful flowers. A doting partner that waits on them, hand and foot. Concern when they tell others that they’re going in for another hospital appointment.

It’s a real trigger for some…but it’s also a formula that works. Instant results (that you can easily get from people you don’t even know!).

There are many psychological theories that explore this behavior, but the point is, you may have some needy subconscious programming that is keeping you ill. Your mindset may be working against your best efforts to truly achieve your wellness goals.

There’s no need to wallow in shame or judgement if this is you; recognize, accept, change. You may need to dig deeper than supplements and detox plans to get to the heart (or brain) of this situation; your subconscious mind may need some tending. Hypnotherapy and meditation are great places to start (today, for free, at home!); Emotional Freedom Technique, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and personal counselling may also help you to come to terms with this blocker.

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Focusing on the Negative

It’s so difficult to reign in the resentment when you’re down and out with chronic illness. I mean, what a waste of life. And what a shed ton of money I’ve already spent. And this is just stupid, stupid, stupid, I give up.

There are two parts to being a successful Negative Nancy: one focuses on everything that’s wrong, and the other zeros in on everything you don’t want in life.

Noticing what’s wrong with your body (and subsequently, your life) is easy. Enjoyable, even. It seems cathartic to hate on every pebble and thread that does you wrong. But all it really does is draw your attention to how much hurt there is in the world – giving you very little encouragement to come up and out of your illness. Why leave your cave if the outside is hostile and horrible?

Secondly, we tend to spend a great deal of energy thinking about what we don’t want, rather than what we do: I don’t want to be sick. I don’t want to feel bad. I don’t want to be tired. These thoughts only reinforce a negative mindset.

Instead, practice gratitude. Notice and be thankful for everything that’s going well for you right now – even if it’s only tiny things: I’m thankful for fresh air, that the sun is shining, and I am able to afford my medication.

Re-framing your thoughts into positive affirmations can help curtail the negative feedback loop of the don’t want mindset; I’m healing every day. I’m so grateful that my body is carrying me through this trial. I’m want to move toward a state of energy and vitality

Both practices will take effort – you are rewiring circuitry that has been functioning in a set way for a long time – but stick with it. The rewards will extend well beyond your health.

Existing Without Illness

Seems like a no-brainer, right? But the reality of living without illness can be a little heavy; counter-intuitive as it seems, it can even be straight up daunting and scary.

It boils down to two things: change and responsibility.

As a species, humans are wired to fear change, and are therefore creatures of habit. We create habit and ritual around everything we do, often without noticing. So, if you’ve been sick for months, years or even decades, you will have created a lifestyle around your condition that eventually becomes familiar and safe (even if it also feels unpleasant). Taking pills, going to appointments, avoiding social engagements, feeling sick when you eat bread, etc. You come to expect it.

By getting your health in order, the sudden prospect of not having these comforting patterns to lean on can upset the rhythm you may have (unconsciously) come to rely on. You may have more time, less structure, or more obligations. What do you do with yourself? How do you transition out of these patterns? What if you can’t cope?

This leads us to the second part: responsibility. Being ill often absolves you of having to take responsibility for your life: how you feel, what you do, why you can’t eat birthday cake, why you leave parties early, why you didn’t get a promotion. It gives you an almighty excuse for just about everything (and a heavy crutch to lean on when you feel hard done by).

However, being well opens up a whole cavern of responsibility you must now take upon yourself; deciding to set goals (and achieve them), accepting that you didn’t get the job, following your (big, scary) dreams, letting go of limiting beliefs and old relationships that no longer serve you.

Both of these things will challenge you, inside and out. Make you want to hide. Send you scurrying back to old (unhelpful) ways. You must prepare yourself for the changes that will come, and own your life without fear. These are both crucial aspects to creating a beautiful mindset and taking back your brain, body, and beauty forever.

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A Final Word on Health and Healing

Maybe you’re not ready to find true healing yet. And you know what, that’s fine. It’s an important distinction to make. True healing will never come from a place of force or resentment. You’re not a bad person or a failure if you’re not ready to go all in.

Give yourself as much time and space as you need, so when you are ready, you can come at this thing with pistols drawn.

In the mean time, start cultivating your beautiful mindset. Explore who you are a little. Find out what you really want and where you want to go. From there, who knows?

And when you get there, when you decide it’s time to tame the beast, I’ll be here.

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Just get better. 

For FREE

You can.

Right now.

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What the heck is all this hypnosis voodoo witchcraft malarkey?

You think it’s stupid hippie crap.

You’d rather take pills and keep hurting because that’s what you’re familiar with.

Your mom thinks it’s devil worship or something.

You’re too embarrassed to ask about it because it’s just too weird and the doctor said there wasn’t any evidence or whatever.  

Actually it’s all science. But I prefer to call it Mental Magic, myself.

 

And I know why you constantly self sabotage.

And that you’re so self conscious you won’t allow your photo to be taken.

And why you hate your body for being sick and bloated and complicated.

I know that you live in fear of failure, have had a complex about your cellulite since you were twelve, and hate all perfect yoga princesses on Instagram (while secretly wishing you were one).

Believe me, I know.

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Healing Hypnosis Can Help You Get Better for FREE

It helped me overcome over 25 years of suffering:

    • I used to puke junk food into my neighbor’s bushes and pretend I wasn’t bulimic

 

    • I’ve spent two decades battling acne and clinging to the mirror’s opinion with incredible determination.

 

    • I’ve been a bad tempered, foul mouthed, insulting, ungracious bitch for most of my marriage.

 

    • After ten years of chronic illness, I found out in 2015 that I had life threatening parasites, SIBO, candida overgrowth, adrenal fatigue, hormone dyregulation, and gene mutations that caused mitochondrial dysfunction and chronic fatigue.

 

    • I’ve spent years racked with guilt, shame, inadequacy, fear, and debilitating doubt.

 

    • Several failed career attempts left me angry, confused, and making next to no money for many years.

 

    • For most of my adult life, I have been depressed, furious, judgemental, anxious, aimless, critical, and largely living in the head space that life sucks and shit happens. 
      Hypnosis can help with eating disorders

    And that’s just for starters.

    But it means I’ve been where you are. I know.

    I ain’t no spirit mama whose holier-than-now-presence means I exist above you in a plane of ethereal superiority.

    Nah.

    I be 100% flesh and blood of the sinner.

    This means I am uniquely qualified to tell you that the bottom of the barrel sucks the big one and there’s no need to go down there to see for yourself.

    I’ve been to the valley of the shadow of death. I know how her breath smells. I can already tell that hypnosis is for you – even if you’re scared.

  • Is Healing Hypnosis for You?

Before you bunk off and decide hypnosis from a back-alley peddler is pure hokum, I need you to answer a great big resounding NO to every single one of these questions:

Do you:

  • Feel like you’ve been sick for a very long time and nothing seems to be able to work at making you well again?
  • Feel like life is harsh, pointless, lonely, and that you’ve been sold false hope and fake dreams?
  • Feel like you are stuck, barely living, just going through the motions, not caring, not connecting? 
  • Think you’ll never be pretty, thin, smart, capable, strong, or qualified enough to peruse your dreams, meet the perfect partner, or achieve your goals?
  • Scroll through your social media feeds several times a day, only to feel gross, depleted, envious, and depressed?
  • Get hung up on the opinions, comments, or criticisms of others?
  • Have fears that you simply can’t shake, no matter how many self-help books you read?
  • Dwell on your inadequacies, picking every aspect of your body apart with harsh criticism?
  • Replay failures and embarrassments in your head, over and over?
  • Allow your worst nightmare scenarios to take over your imagination and prevent you from living your best life?
  • Doubt yourself, second guess your intuition, and tangle yourself up in cycles of sabotage?
  • Dwell on past hurts, experiences, relationships, or traumas?

Did you answer NO to all of them?

If not, congratulations on passing the test.

Welcome to being human.

hypnosis for improving mindset

The good part is, this means you are a double-bubble candidate for hypnosis healing.

For GETTING BETTER FOR FREE

Your brain is screaming for help.

It doesn’t mean to…but it’s keeping you sick.

Your emotions, reactions, and beliefs are desperate for realignment.

You are so totally ready for an uprising of preconceptions, a revolution of understanding and miracles that shake your weary bones to the morrow.

Maybe my mental magic isn’t for you. Totally cool. Be blessed, and find spirit, energy, health and healing that inspires the change you desire.

However, I just have to say, I know exactly how to tap into every single one of these issues you’ve faced.

Just throwing it out there.

Here’s my proposition to you:

Try my hypno. 

Just try it for 15 minutes everyday, for two weeks.

It’s free.

It’s specifically designed for you.

 

If you’ve got a spare 15 minutes each day, and are interested in sexy, juicy, empowered healing and wellbeing, building confidence, and perusing your dreams then I can teach you how to use 1% of your day to totally transform the other 99%.

You can spare 1%. Don’t pretend.

(Tony Robins says, “If you don’t have ten minutes, you don’t have a life.” I’m tacking on an extra 5 and socking it to ya!)

How healing hypnosis has helped me (and can help you, too):

  • I’ve come to a place of peace, happiness, gratitude and acceptance in my body (so huge for a former bulimic).
  • I have found profound physical healing from carousel of maladies way quicker than by any other method.
  • My self confidence has improved beyond my imagination and I have so much love for my bod, my appearance, and the process of aging.
  • I’ve become a nicer, calmer, happier, MUCH more patient human, connected to my purpose and energy. 
  • I’ve unexpectedly opened up a creative cavern, and my artistic endeavors have sallied forth with more ideas, passion, and energy than I ever allowed myself previously.
  • I’ve become more open, loving, and understanding in all relationships, especially my marriage (my husband emphatically concurs).
  • Significantly decreased stress, tension, anxiety and depression in my mind, work, and relationships.
  • It has heightened my intuition and insight about myself, others, and the situations I face.

I continue to add to this repertoire of subconscious successes all the time (I’ve been studying this stuff for years, but saw significant results within about a month) of committing to daily practice.

Anecdotal, you cry! Poppycock of the highest order!

Maybe. That’s up to you to decide. But I believe in hypnosis. I really do. And the fact is, it’s backed up by science. But you don’t have to take my patchwork word for it. I would whole-heartedly encourage you to do your research and get informed.

Whether or not you choose to involve yourself with my content is neither here nor there.

But you need to get a handle on yourself somehow.

Hypnosis to help your mindset improveOr this will happen to you

Your anxiety.

Your fear.

Your doubt.

The cold harsh feelings of isolation and nothingness that you can’t even describe.

The old hurts and ugly history and frantic relationships.

And you can. Starting today. Right now.

Open your heart and mind to this journey of self discovery. Understanding. Beautiful, meaningful release.

That which we focus on becomes us.

Let’s focus.

Be Beautiful Today.
xoxo

p.s.  Already convinced? Here’s some tips for How to Supercharge Your Self-Love Hypnosis for Quicker, Better Results.

 

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